Why You Shouldn’t Regret Naming Your Child “Daenerys” or “Khaleesi”

(This post contains spoilers for the “Game of Thrones” TV Show)

Frosty’s Note: I apologize if this piece isn’t the best-written. This subject was on my mind constantly this weekend and I really wanted to quickly share my thoughts. I also wanted to post something more positive since my post this week was very critical and negative.

I saw a lot of memes after the “Game of Thrones” finale. Most of them were aimed at individuals who have named their children after the Khaleesi, Daenerys Stormborn of House Targaryen. A lot of people were saying that these individuals must regret naming their daughters after this character, since she became “The Mad Queen” and burned King’s Landing during the final season. Despite this, I do not think that these individuals should regret the name(s) they gave to their children. Keep reading to find out why.

  • Daenerys is NOT a bad person.

Despite what the writers of the show tried to force us to believe, Daenerys Targaryen is NOT a bad person. Even if she does have the “Targaryen Madness”, this is hardly her fault. If we wish to blame the Targaryen Madness on someone, we should blame the members of the Targaryen family who decided that incest was a good idea. However, I don’t think we can truly blame the Targaryen Madness on anyone. Mental illnesses are not something one can usually control, at least not without difficulty. Therefore, Daenerys cannot be held completely accountable for her actions if she had a serious mental illness.

  • Even those who think she is a bad person cannot deny that she was a very good person before.

Daenerys did some very good things in her life before she burned King’s Landing. She freed hundreds of thousands of slaves, defeated horrible people, helped save others from the Night King, and she genuinely wants to be a good and fair ruler. She has said countless times that she does not want to kill innocents and does not want to be “Queen of the Ashes”. She has shown throughout the series that she genuinely cares about other people and their wellbeing. She is selfless and sacrifices so much for others.

  • She is not nearly as cruel as others.

Let us not forget that other “heroic” characters have executed those who have betrayed them or refused to swear fealty to them. Still, these people were seen as heroes. I would think that this is simply a result of misogyny (especially since characters like Jon Snow and Tyrion Lannister are praised for acts like this) but characters like Arya and Sansa Stark are praised for killing those who betray them or are not loyal them. Daenerys has been through as much as these two and has good reasons for killing those against her, but she is criticized while others are praised. Do you not think that Sansa would have burned thousands of people at one point if she had the ability?

  • She had good intentions.

Despite her horrendous acts in the final episodes of the final seasons, Daenerys ALWAYS had good intentions. She did not burn King’s Landing because she enjoyed killing people or because she hated the people of King’s Landing, but because she thought it was the only way to destroy evil and create a new, good world. Despite other people’s interpretations, Daenerys did not only want to have power. She really wanted a better world for the good people who deserved it, and she believed what she was doing was the best for everyone.

  • All in all, Daenerys is still a strong and kind character.

Despite the ending she got, Daenerys is still a very strong and kind individual. She overcame difficulties and adversity, she tried to do what was best for everyone, and she was kind to people. In my opinion, Daenerys is someone I would want my children to look up to. Of course, I wouldn’t want them to burn cities to the ground, but I would want them to be strong, caring, kind, selfless, and brave just like her. It took a lot to make her finally “break”, a lot more than it would take to make most people to break.

If you’re still not convinced, look at #NotMyDany on Twitter. I wanted to post some here, but I don’t have a Twitter account and don’t know how to contact the original posters for permission outside of Twitter.

Are you still not convinced? Read what Emilia Clarke, the actress who played Daenerys Targaryen, had to say about her:

“She genuinely starts with the best intentions and truly hopes there isn’t going to be something scuttling her greatest plans,” she says. “The problem is [the Starks] don’t like her and she sees it. She goes, ‘Okay, one chance.’ She gives them that chance and it doesn’t work and she’s too far to turn around. She’s made her bed, she’s laying in it. It’s done. And that’s the thing. I don’t think she realizes until it happens — the real effect of their reactions on her is: ‘I don’t give a s—t.’ This is my whole existence. Since birth! She literally was brought into this world going, ‘Run!’ These f—kers have f—ked everything up, and now it’s, ‘You’re our only hope.’ There’s so much she’s taken on in her duty in life to rectify, so much she’s seen and witnessed and been through and lost and suffered and hurt. Suddenly these people are turning around and saying, ‘We don’t accept you.’ But she’s too far down the line. She’s killed so many people already. I can’t turn this ship around. It’s too much. One by one, you see all these strings being cut. And there’s just this last thread she’s holding onto: There’s this boy. And she thinks, ‘He loves me, and I think that’s enough.’ But is it enough? Is it? And it’s just that hope and wishing that finally there is someone who accepts her for everything she is and … he f—king doesn’t.”

“There’s a number of turning points you see for Daenerys in the season, but that’s the biggest break. There’s nothing I will not do after losing Missandei and seeing the sacrifice she was prepared to make for her. That breaks her completely. There’s nothing left to making a tough choice.”

 “She f—king warned him last season. We love Varys. I love [actor Conleth Hill]. But he changes his colors as many times as he wants. She needs to know the people who are supporting her regardless. That was my only option, essentially, is what I mean.”

(source: James Hibberd of Entertainment Weekly)

I truly believe that Daenerys was a good, but misguided and horribly hurt, person. I continue to stand by Daenerys as Emilia does, and I would be honored to have a daughter named after her.

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